Rabbi Rachmiel Tobesman

In its commentary, the Gemara (Berachos 60b) explores the significance of the word "ke-shem" or "just like" in the Mishnaic formulation. Clearly it cannot mean that one is obliged to recite the same blessing text in each case, says the Gemara, because, a few lines earlier, the Mishnah taught that each type of event requires a different text: "For good tidings, one recites, 'Baruch . ha-tov ve-ha-meitiv' (Blessed ... Who is good and Who bestows good); for sad tidings, one recites 'Baruch ...Dayyan ha-emes' (Blessed ... Who is a righteous Judge)." For that reason, the sages taught, that one must accept both good and bad "bi-simchah," with joy.


Confession on a Death Bed

“He who confesses and forsakes his sins, will obtain mercy” (Proverbs 28. 13).

Taharah Tefilah (Hebrew)

Taharah Tefilah (Hebrew and English)


Sign for Shiva House



The mourner’s Kaddish is recited by the children of all Jewish people, not only the great and pious. Even one who was unlearned or sinful must be shown honor and respect by the saying of Kaddish in his or her memory. Also, every mourner is expected to recite Kaddish, no matter what his personal situation.

So the Kaddish also brings to mind the idea that all Jewish people are special, for by saying, "Yisgadal, exalted...," even the ordinary individual with limited learning has an impact on the total Jewish people and adds greatness and holiness to the Holy One, Blessed be He.



Kaddish (Ashkenazi Transliteration)


Kaddish (Sephardi Transliteration)


Kaddish (Russian Transliteration)


Jewish Prayer


El Molay Rachamim -- God Full of Compassion


Psalm 23


Psalm 23 - Russian


A Meditation Based on the 23rd Psalm


A Prayer of Moses, Man of God Psalm 90


Psalm 91


A Prayer of the Afflicted Psalm 102: 1-13, 24--29


Shiva Jewish prayers

Shiva, in Hebrew, means "seven." Traditionally this refers to the first seven days of mourning that are observed following the burial of one's loved one. Mourning a loved one properly is the ultimate gift that one can give to the one who has passed on. It is also a mitzvah that benefits both the mourner and the one who is mourned. One should be willing and proud to follow the ways of his or her ancestors during this most sensitive and trying time.


The First Three Days of Shiva


God is Our Refuge, and Our Strength


Prayer for Lighting the Shiva Candle


We Rise Up to Face the Tasks of Life Once More


Kindling the Shiva Candle


Yahrziet Jewish prayers

Yahrzeit is a Yiddish word meaning “a year’s time” and it is the remembrance of the anniversary of a loved one’s death. It is observed each year on the date of death.

Perhaps the best known custom for observing a Yahrzeit is lighting a candle made to burn for at least 24 hours. We light the candle at home in the evening that the Yahrzeit begins, and it is a symbol of the soul and spirit of the deceased. If a Yahrzeit falls on Shabbos or on a Holiday, the candle is typically lit before the Shabbos or holiday candles. Although there is no formal blessing when lighting the candle, a meditation may be said. It is appropriate, of course, to use your own words and thoughts in addition to, or in place of a meditation.


A Yahrzeit Reflection


Meditation on the Yahrzeit Candle


Meditation for Kindling the Yahrzeit Candle


Thought on Lighting the Yahzeit Candle


Readings and Meditations Jewish Funerals

A collection of readings and meditations from TaNaCh (Scriptures), Apocrypha, Talmud, Midrash and Rabbis



Aishes Chayil - A Woman of Value Proverbs 31: 10-31


Aishes Chayil - Russian Proverbs 31: 10-31


A Time for Everything Ecclesiastes 3:1-8


On the Death of the Young II Samuel 12:16-23


Fear Not Death The Wisdom of ben Sira - Ecclesiasticus


Reflection from the Wisdom of Solomon Wisdom of Solomon 3: 1-4


Thoughts on the Death of A Young Person Wisdom of Solomon


Coming for the Sake of the Commandment of Comforting Mourners Moed Kattan 21b


Comforting A Mourner Avos de-Rebbe Nasan 14


Deeds and Faith Before the Heavenly Court Shabbos 31a


Deeds Speak for Themselves Mishnah Eduyos 5:7


A Good Name is Better than Precious Oil Berachos 17a


And David Slept with His Fathers Bava Basra 116a


You Should Follow the Ways of the Holy One, Blessed Be He Sotah 14a


How Does a King Mourn? Lamentations Rabbah 1:1, #1


And Behold, It Was Very Good Genesis Rabbah 9:5


Meditation from Mishle Shualim Mishle Shualim by Berachyah Ha-nakdan (1260)


Meditation from the Rokeach Rokeach - R. Elazar of Worms (d. 1238)


Meditation from Sefer Chassidim Sefer Chasidim, R. Judah the Pious (d. 1217)