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Thoughts during a Funeral

Posted on Sunday, 10, October, 2021Tuesday, 20, September, 2022 by Rabbi

Tam and Chacham attended a funeral together. Chacham observed that:

“We learn that we are to ‘Deal graciously with the departed that you may be dealt with graciously, mourn, bury and accompany them to the grave.’ (Kesubos 72a), yet many push and shove to get close to the coffin during a funeral so that they can take part in the mitzvah of carrying the deceased and helping to fill in the grave. In this way, they feel that they are doing something for the benefit of the deceased, even though it is as clear as day that even if they didn’t participate, the deceased would still be buried.’ “

“It is certainly a mitzvah to participate in these things, but why don’t people do something which will really benefit the deceased, even after the funeral is over? We have been taught by our holy teachers of the past that a person’s trial, along with the judgment that follows is decided after he is buried – so why don’t people learn from the Holy Writings or say Tehillim (Psalms) for the elevation of the soul of the deceased?”

Chesed Shel Emes

On another occasion, Tam added more on the same matter: “Some people who attend a funeral don’t feel so concerned when they listen to the eulogies. It is written, ‘“funeral orators are punished for delivering false eulogies,’ (Berachos 62a) Too many people think there is no need to be that upset over his death.’ “

”But should we not all be concerned about the trial and judgment that the niftar (deceased) will now be facing? Instead of standing around and exchanging greetings and gossip at the funeral, wouldn’t it be better to be saying Tehillim (Psalms) or thinking thoughts that will bring us to do teshuvah (repentance/retrospection) in order to help the tikkun hanefesh (repair of the soul) of the deceased? It would also be better if after the burial, people would not just go back home and forget about the funeral, thinking that it is over and there is nothing more that can be done. The correct thing would be to go home and pray, asking for the mercy of the Holy One, blessed be He so that the deceased will be spared from any harsh judgment that he might face. It is very important to remember to ‘walk reverently in a cemetery, blessed the deceased say: “tomorrow they will join us, and today they mock us. (Berachos 18a)’ “

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The Water Carrier – A Tale from Aleppo

Posted on Monday, 9, September, 2019Wednesday, 21, September, 2022 by Rabbi

The sky was a sad gray. Rain poured down from the heavens and a cold wind blew from the east, chilling everyone to the bone. The Chevra Kadisha (burial Society) was escorting the body of the town’s water carrier, to his final resting place in the cemetery.

For thirty years, the water carrier would carry two buckets on his shoulders, and walk down the hill to draw water from the river. He would then slowly make his way back up the hill, with the heavy weight on his shoulders, and deliver this water to the people in the village. He did this each day, year after year, in order to earn enough money to feed his family.

Looking out his window, the young Chacham (rabbi) was surprised to see his aged father outside in the wet weather, accompanying the water carrier’s levaya (funeral procession).

Later that evening, the young chacham said to his father, “I was very surprised to see you walking the whole way to the cemetery and stay for the whole funeral. I know how busy you are, and how hard it is for you to get away from the bet midrash (house of study).”

“Do not be surprised, my son,” his father answered. “When the funeral procession passed by the bet midrash, I saw thousands of angels singing Tehillim (Psalms) with beautiful voices. Singing in the cen­ter of all the angels was a tall majestic figure, larger than the rest, who appeared to be David haMelech (King David). How could I not accompany them?”

But why would a simple water carrier, be accompanied to his grave by David haMelech and so many angels singing Tehillim? thought the young chacham. What was so special about him? That night, he prayed to Hashem to reveal to him the secret of the water carrier.

In the middle of that same night, the water carrier came to the young chacham in a dream. “It is true,” he explained, “in your world I was, indeed, a very simple man.

I could neither read or write. But, as a child, I learned the entire first Sefer of Tehillim (book of Psalms) by heart. Each day after work, I would recite the entire first Sefer in the bet midrash. I could say it slowly with very deep feelings. That is why I merited such a special honor. David haMelech who wrote the Tehillim came to my funeral with the angels that I created through my daily reading of Tehillim.”

The young chacham learned a very important lesson – the power of prayer, even for a very simple man.

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A Pendant of Memories

Posted on Wednesday, 30, January, 2019Wednesday, 21, September, 2022 by Rabbi

All was quiet except the sound of a soft breeze. A young boy maybe thirteen stared outside into the endless night sky. Although the boy’s eyes stared at the night his mind was far far away.

All he could think about was his mother, her long red hair, her smile, even the tone of her voice when she told him stories of magical places and great heroes. Suddenly, he noticed something moving outside. It came closer and closer, it looked like his mother. The boy torn with grief had hope for the first time in weeks and did what any curious boy one would do, he ran towards the ghost, sneaking slowly out of the window.

He finally walked so close to the image that he could almost touch it, but felt nothing. The sadness rushed in and his body began to slowly shake as he started to cry to himself. “Why?! Why did you have to die!” The boy screamed in agony, he wished he could hug her, and hear her soothing voice. But nothing happened, he sat there in silence on his knees, tears slowly falling from his eyes. “It’s all my fault! If I had only….” A wave of thought and pain washed over the grief stricken boy.

His heart ached, a mental rather than physical pain, all he wished for was his mother, nothing more. His memory stretched backwards to days of when he was three years old, he remembered his mother carrying him through a fair filled with living legends of kings, queens and nobleman.

Another memory popped into his mind, he remembered when his best friend moved away and he feared he never see him again. His mother sat there stroking his hair saying it would be alright. Soon his beautiful memories vanished as a puff of smoke as his chest began to hurt. Longing just to be with her one more time.


Mourning Grief

The young boy breathed deeply trying to stop the tears from flowing, it worked for a few minutes. Then he started to feel very depressed, feeling guilty, sad and grief struck through him like a sword.

Stew slopped into the large bowl that he held in front of him. The boy pressed his hand to his mouth, nearly vomiting. He quietly sat down next to his cousins. They sat there eating the food, talking and laughing, the boy tried to join them.

Soon he finished the stew and continued to his room to just lie in his bed. Something was different, he looked at his pillow, and on it was a pendant with the words “carpe diem” (“seize the day) on it. His mother had given it to him when he was worried about a sick friend. How? When? He looked around looking at his cousins. Looking at the pendant, the boy began to accept his mother’s death and realized its okay to be happy about somethings and memories.

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