The Proper Match and the Right Question

Posted on Tuesday, 2, January, 2024 by Rabbi

Everyone respected the village rabbi, and his wisdom was known throughout the world. He had a daughter who was quite beautiful and she was wise like her father and also kind. Of her, it was said, “She opens her mouth in wisdom, and a lesson of lovingkindness is on her tongue. (Proverbs 31:26) The rabbi wanted to see his daughter married to a worthy young man. He traveled to the city where there was a great school where the Torah (Scriptures) was studied. He hoped to find a suitable husband for his daughter. Upon arriving in the city, he got the word out that the one who showed the most outstanding Torah scholarship would be the one chosen for his daughter.

The village rabbi posed a question to the potential suitors, and one by one, each tried to answer it. However, the village rabbi rejected every single answer. Not one student could find a solution to the question. With a heavy heart, he asked, “Where shall wisdom be found? And where is the place of understanding?” (Job 28:12)

Sadly, it came time for the rabbi to return to his village. The city and the school were embarrassed that he would be leaving without a match for his daughter. Suddenly, as the community members were saying their goodbyes, one young student came to the village rabbi and said, “To leave without finding a suitable match for your wonderful daughter is very heartbreaking, but are we not taught, ‘My mouth shall speak wisdom; the meditation of my heart shall be understanding.’ (Psalm 49:3) Please tell us what the answer to the question is?”

Proverbs 31:26

The village rabbi looked at the young man in amazement and then replied, “You, young man, are the one I want for my daughter. Any person who is interested in learning Torah for its own sake and not for any other reason is the one I want for my daughter.”

The village rabbi spoke and reminded those surrounding him, “For wisdom will come into your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.’ (Proverbs 2:10), and he continued, ‘Happy are those who find wisdom, and those who get understanding,’ “ (Proverbs 3:13)

The village rabbi blessed the match between the young man and his daughter, saying”

“Learn where there is wisdom, where there is strength, where there is understanding, so that you may at the same time discern where there is length of days, and life, where there is light for the eyes and peace.” (Baruch 3:14)

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Charity and the Coins of Eliyahu haNovi

Posted on Monday, 9, May, 2022Sunday, 6, August, 2023 by Rabbi

anWhoever is kind to the poor lends to the L-rd and he will reward them for what they have done. (Proverbs., 19:17)

Once there was a very wealthy man who was always ready to help anyone in need. He was very successful and for many years all went well with him and his dear ones. “The world is like a fountain-wheel. the buckets ascend full and descend empty — Who’s rich today may not be so tomorrow.” (Exodus Rabbah 31:14) After some time, his business slowly began to fail, and the wealthy man lost his entire fortune.

To provide for the daily needs of his wife and children, he worked in the fields as a laborer and was paid by the day. The work was long and hard, but a good heart and a willing spirit enabled him to overcome all hardships. He even spared a coin of his wages to help those who were in a worse plight than he found himself.

Now it happened one day while he was ploughing a field when a stranger approached and greeted him, saying, “Peace be to you and to all your house.”

He replied, ” Peace be also to you and yours.”

The stranger then continued, ” Friend, I come to tell you that you are destined to regain your fortune and to live in prosperity for a period of six years during your life here on earth. It is yours to choose when this period shall begin; shall it be now or later in life? “

Astonished at the strange words that he had heard, the laborer looked at the stranger to see if he was dreaming. ” Good stranger,” he answered “are you a prophet or a magician that you speak in this way? I fear you are as poor as I am. Go your way in peace, for I cannot help you today, for I am penniless at the moment. I should be happy to give you some coin for your happy news and well wishes, but I cannot give what I do not have. Go in peace and may Heaven send you blessings.”

The stranger went away and the labourer continued his work without thinking any more of the strange meeting. After a short time, the stranger returned and repeated the offer, only to be refused. When, the stranger returned a third time he urged the unwilling labourer to accept his gift by believing in the promise. The poor worker, tired from his hard daily struggle in the fields, at last consented to speak with his wife before deciding. A glimmer of hope in the possibility of the promise had touched him to his very core.

” Perhaps, after all,” he thought, ” the Master of Mercy has sent this messenger to help me in my distress and now the poverty that has harassed me and my dear ones will be replaced by wealth and success.”

He ran home as quickly as his legs would carry him and told his wife all that happened. The man told his wife about how the stranger kept coming to him. He said to his wife, ” If we believe that the stranger is speaking the truth and that I am to be rich for a period of six years, when do you advise me to choose our time of prosperity – now or later in life? “

After a moment’s consideration she advised her husband, “Now, now” Her husband returned to the field without further delay and found the stranger waiting for his decision. When the laborer told him his wish to enjoy there and then the promised wealth and prosperity, the stranger opened his purse and took out two silver coins.

“Here, my friend,” he said, “take these two silver coins and return them to me in six years when I return to you. Do not forget I shall require my two silver coins to be restored to me when I come to claim it.”

After the laborer received the coins, he thanked the stranger and promised to return the gift as agreed. In a second, the stranger disappeared.

“Very strange,” he observed “there is some mystery about this stranger, he seems to come from nowhere and to return to the same place.”

No sooner had the labourer placed the silver coins in his pocket than he felt a sudden change coming over him. His sadness and sorrow melted way and a new feeling of happiness, and confidence arose in his heart. He bowed his head and thanked the Holy One, blessed be He for His blessings.

Meanwhile, wonderful events were happening in his home. His eldest son was planting the garden at the back of their house, when he saw gold glittering in the sunlight. He dug deeper and deeper and found a treasure that had been lying hidden there all the years of their poverty. The young man cried aloud in his joy. His mother and his brothers came to see what the confusion was about. As soon as she saw what was happening, she sent her youngest son to his father. She instructed her son, “Do not fail to tell him that the Holy One, blessed be He has given us back our fortune.”

The pious man and his good wife decided to make good use of their wealth as long as it was entrusted to their care. They were very happy because they could now assist the less fortunate. The wife said to her good husband, ” My dear, we must not forget that our good fortune will not last forever. We are to be wealthy for six years. During this time we shall feed the hungry, clothe the naked, and assist the needy. We shall be happy in realizing that we have made good use of our trust.”

The husband said, “Indeed, ‘a lesson of kindness is on your tongue. (Proverbs 31:26)”

The youngest son was told by his mother to keep an account of their own expenses and an account of the money given in to help others.

The six years passed quickly. One day the stranger came to their house, and after receiving a warm welcome turned to his host and said, “The six years have passed, and I have come to ask you to return my two silver coins.”

The holy man said, “Your request is quite fair and just. Yet, before I return the silver coins allow me to consult my wife before I return your coins.”

The man turned to his wife and asked her, ” Beloved wife, please advise me how am I to repay our debt to our generous benefactor here? “

” Let me,” she cried, ” settle accounts with him.” Turning to him she said, “I will show you how we have spent the fortune entrusted to our care through your kindness. Behold the account books.”

The kind stranger looked with deep interest at the long lists recording the money spent in charity. ” You have indeed,” he responded, “spent plenty of money.”

The wife continued, ” if you do believe for a moment that your money might be entrusted to better guardians, take away then your gift. If, on the other hand, you are satisfied with the way we have used the wealth placed in our care, then let us continue to hold our trust.”

The stranger agreed with the couple and explained, “He who donates much to those in need become richer because of it, since he opens up a channel for Hashem’s blessing to reach him. (Zohar III 110b)

The stranger was Eliyahu haNovi (Elijah the Prophet), zichrona l’brachah – may his memory be a blessing, blessed the good couple and told them enjoy the wealth they knew so well how to use. In a moment, he left and the happy couple kept his coins and passed them onto their eldest son as a family heirloom.

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An Act of Kindness Saved Shabbos

Posted on Thursday, 24, January, 2019Friday, 26, January, 2024 by Rabbi

She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the lesson of kindness is on her tongue. (Proverbs 31:26)

In the year 1493, all Jewish people who lived in Spain were forced to leave the country. Any Jewish person that remained had to become Christian or be killed. It was against the law to keep the Torah and mitzvos (commandments) especially Shabbos and holidays. Many Jewish people did not want to leave the country without their belongings and means instead they tried to keep the Torah and mitzvos secretly. It was a very dangerous and terrifying time.

The Francesco family was among those who remained in Spain and kept their Torah observance secretly. Every week, the mother, Rachel, lit her Shabbos (Sabbath) candles and welcomed the Shabbos – Holy Sabbath into their home. She made sure that all windows and doors were shut tightly so that no neighbor could see. The Grandmother sat quietly on the side remembering better times for her family and how her family would gather together each Friday evening to celebrate Shabbos together. Michoel, the father, davened (prayed) kabbalas Shabbos (Welcoming the Sabbath service) with his two sons. They did this silently, so that no neighbor could hear.

Sadly, few secrets remain hidden for long. Peeking through a crack in the wooden window slat, someone looked into their house. This wicked neighbor saw Michoel praying with his two sons and the two lit candles on the table. He immediately ran to notify the police.

“I have found secret Jews keeping their Saturday Sabbath,” he announced. The police rushed to the Francesco house and banged loudly at the door. “Open up,” a harsh voice commanded. “We know there are secret Jews hiding in this house. Open the door or we will break it down!”

Michoel was filled with fear, yet he had no choice but to let the police in. The captain came into their house followed by his troops. “Tie their hands and march these Jewish renegades to the church. The Inquisition will punish them!”

Everyone in the Francesco house quivered with fear; they were terrified. They were sure they would be killed. Suddenly, the captain of the police noticed the Grandmother. I know this woman, he thought. I remember this kind woman from when I was a child. Every morning, she gave me candies when I passed by her house. And whenever I felt hurt or someone was mean to me she was always so kind and gentle. I cannot harm her or her family, his conscious told him.

“No, no, no,” barked the captain to the troops. “We are mistaken! I know these people. They are not Jewish. The man was probably just talking with his sons. And those two candles on the table are probably lit to light up the house on this dark evening.”

“Soldiers, return to your homes,” said the captain. “Let us not disturb these people anymore!” Michoel was stunned and could not believe what he was hearing. The captain winked at Michoel as he and his troops left the house.

Michoel breathed a giant sigh of relief and raised his hands to Hashem (G-d) thanking him for the great miracle of saving him and his family. He then told his family “We must continue with all our strength and mesiras nefesh (Self-sacrifice) to adhere to Torah and mitzvos and never desecrate the holy Shabbos.

That night long ago reminded the Francesco family that “Whoever pursues righteousness and kindness will find life and honor.” (Proverbs 21:21)

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