Parenting is very difficult and at times confusing. Many parents in the midst of frustration and anger, forget they are parents. Sometimes parents know their children are hurting, but feel helpless in easing the pain. Parents are forever and just need a little encouragement and reminder. Here are some resources for parents.

ANGER

It is extremely hard to know what is the best course of action to take in what seems to be helpless circumstances. However, we have learned some pitfalls to avoid and some long-range thinking and planning that help.

Anger is so often part of parenting and its effects upon children is devastating. The frustration, feeling helpless, being afraid often overwhelm a child so that they don't know "what's wrong" or how to tell parents what "hurts."Parents become frustrated because they can't comfort their children and don't know how to talk to their children. Instead of looking for reasons to blame someone, take a moment and learn how to speak to your children.

Children Need Both Parents

Lewis Carroll, author of Alice in Wonderland, once called stories  love gifts.  Children of divorce and separation need much love from both parents. Stories provide a mode for parents and children to strengthen relationship.

Storytelling is a sharing experience. When a parent tells a story, they show a willingness to be vulnerable, to share ideas and feelings. That kind of sensitivity invites children to listen with open minds and hearts. Enjoying a story together creates a common experience. Storytelling, properly done creates a relaxed, restful feeling. It establishes a very special relationship between parent and child.

These stories from The Magic Glasses storybook are powerful and are a great aid in helping children understand separation and divorce

THE BOY WHO HAD TO CATCH A DRAGON

"I have to catch a dragon and I don't know how to do it," replied the prince. "I'm not powerful or smart enough. I guess I'll just stay here on this bed forever, because I don't know what to do.."

Fear, anger, confusion and divorce forces many children to grow up too quickly as they cope with many adult issues. Deep inside each child has the strength to capture their dragons.

THE MAGIC GLASSES

The queen told the little prince that if he would only wear magic glasses she had, he would feel better,…. letting him know that his eyes needed to be protected from the war and demanding that he wear them at all times. However, when the prince went around to the king, the king would throw away those glasses saying that his glasses could protect the prince, ….in order to see better and get rid of his sadness.

So often children become caught up in the anger and frustration of their parents They see the world through the  glasses  their parents give them. The children can take off those glasses and tell their parent they only want their love, not the anger.

Death: A Time to Mourn for Children

Today's society so prides itself on its ability to welcome diversity,but so often fails to recognize or acknowledge the unique practices and methods of funeral and grieving practices. In this way, the general culture also fails to support grief; the very process which helps children cope and grow throughthe despair of loss.

Children are constantly learning about life, but very little on how to cope with the death of a loved one or friend, Help your child through this very sad time with Resources for Child Grief and Mourning

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